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Dentists and weight loss – two things that seem to be unrelated, at least to me. But a lot of people tend to connect the two, especially when it comes to people who horizontally challenged (just a nicer way saying ‘fat’! 🙂 ) and have braces!

Well, in an earlier post I had mentioned a cute dentist and four missing teeth. If you haven’t realized I am the one with the four missing teeth! OK, I know I’m a little too old for braces!!

Anyway, after all the “oh my god” and the guffaws, everyone who saw me with braces had only one thing to say, “You’re gonna loose a lotta weight now!” . And I just gave them my metallic smile. *sigh*

I know people who have lost weight while they had braces and too an extent I can understand why. Initially, all you can eat are things that are semi solid. But that doesn’t have to be the case in the long run.

Weighty-issues

I’ve been eating like I used to without a problem. I know they would have gone back to their normal eating habits too, eventually. But they loose oodles of weight and me, well, not an inch !

Couple of days back I was chatting with a lady at the gym and I happened to mention to her that I had gone back to India to study and that I was staying by myself for a couple of years the. The look on her face was, well, pretty amusing actually and she says “Then how come you’re soooo fat?!?!?!“. And I give her another metallic smile. She goes on to say, ” My son too had gone to India to study and he has lost sooo much weight. Even if he eats a lot now, he doesn’t put on weight! “.

It makes you cry

Some people are just so darn lucky!

Some people don’t have to bother about weighty-issues, eat all they want and still don’t put on an inch. Some people just have to do stuff like, well, go to India ! or get braces and poof ! they’ve lost all the extra pounds. And me, well, I’m gonna have to work my butt of to get rid of all that I’ve acquired over the years.

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Wonder if I’ll ever get to see a skinny me !

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“Save Tonight” by Eagle Eye Cherry is a song I’ve heard a lot of times, sometimes on loop, sometimes just bits and parts. I don’t really remember how and when I heard this song for the first time but I was hooked on from that day on. This, like many other songs, I had heard first before watching the video. The lyrics of the song is what got me hooked. Today, while I was over at YouTube I thought I’d check the video. I’d always wondered what it would be like. I pretty much had the whole video worked out in my head. The first thing that always comes to my mind whenever I hear the song is – a couple in one of those typical country-side houses, sitting next to a fire place, sipping some wine…

Will someone please tell me the connection !!!! What I expected and what it turned out to be…*sigh*

The lyrics…

Go on and close the curtains
All we need is candlelight
You and me and a bottle of wine
Going to hold you tonight

We know I’m going away
How I wish….wish it weren’t so
Take this wine & drink with me
Let’s delay our misery

Save tonight
And fight the break of dawn
Come tomorrow
Tomorrow I’ll be gone

There’s a log on the fire
And it burns like me for you
Tomorrow comes with one desire
To take me away….it’s true
It ain’t easy to say goodbye
Darling please don’t start cry
‘Cause girl you know I’ve got to go
Lord I wish it wasn’t so

Save tonight
And fight the break of dawn
Come tomorrow
Tomorrow I’ll be gone

Tomorrow comes to take me away
I wish that I…that I could stay
Girl you know I’ve got to go
Lord I wish it wasn’t so

Save tonight
And fight the break of dawn
Come tomorrow
Tomorrow I’ll be gone…

I have always thought that there is no feeling as good as having a child and watching him/her grow. Being part of every minute of a child’s life is something parents cherish.

Lately, I’ve noticed it has become a growing trend to involve the child’s grandparents into the whole parenting process. Involvement of the grandparents can be of great help, especially since they have been there, done that! Guidance of any sort will always be appreciated by the new parents. The problem begins when, slowly, the parents’ involvement dwindles and all of the responsibility goes to the grandparents.

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I know of couples who leave their child with their parents, and continue with their lives like nothing has changed. Work and the money that comes with it being their first priority, the child is completely neglected, It is up to the grandparents, who at times are in different parts of the country or in a different country altogether, to bring up the child.

Nowadays people get married late and with the female’s biological clock ticking, the couple agrees on having a baby as soon as possible to avoid complications. Once the child is born it is as if their responsibility is over with that. They get back to their old routines and money is all that’s on their mind. The child is left to the mercy of relatives and/or nannies. Is it fair on the child? No. Fair on the grandparents? No. We all know how it is quite tough to bring up a child during the early stages of their life. The late nights, the tantrums, all of which will take its toll on older people. But usually none of this is thought about. And the grandparents are more than happy to help.

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I can understand the need of this kind of arrangement if they are not financially stable and need the extra money. Otherwise, what is the need to deprive the child of much needed love and care from their mothers?

I think couples should have kids only if they are really ready for it, only if they are ready to take up all the responsibility that comes with it. Having kids just because it’s the next obvious step in their life or because that is what is expected of them or just because they can’t take the pressure that comes from relatives, just doesn’t make sense.

I’m going to end this post with a part of a conversation that I had with a person recently. It is this conversation that made me write this post. (There is a lot more to this issue than what I’ve covered. I’ve only mentioned this part as this is something I have witnessed many times.)

Me: …… So are you working nowdays or are you with the baby all the time?

Person X : Ahh… Don’t ask! I’m stuck with the baby. I’m just waiting for him/her to become old enough so that I can put him/her in daycare and get back to work!

PS: These are my views. I am not a parent and my knowledge is limited when it comes to parenting, but these are things I see too often to ignore.

Besides death, diseases and flying on aeroplanes, my biggest fear nowadays is “Arranged Marriages”.

My short trip to my hometown brought me face-to-face with this. A cousin, who’s just a little older than me, is all set to get married. MARRIED!!!! She was all happy and gay(no! not that gay…she’s very much straight !) and SINGLE a week prior to this but now she’s getting married ! Sheesh !

Ok, I can understand her getting married. She’s at the right age and all ( According to general consensus). But her’s is a typical arranged marriage. Her details/photograph has been circulating in the ‘market’. One fine day aunty gets a call enquiring about her. Next day horoscopes are exchanged. It’s a match ! Few days later the guy’s family comes to see her. Boy and girl get some quality time to talk and get to know each other better, the same day, with parents and other family members around! The quality time is not even made proper use of !!!

Few days later, another phone call…. The boy’s family liked the girl. The boy has given his consent. Aunt talks to cousin. And its FIXED !!!

And the best/worst part…SHE DOESN’T EVEN REMEMBER HIS FACE !!!!!!!!!!

How scary is that!!!! I can’t imagine myself doing something like this. I mean…like…HOW?????? And the worst part is, this is what is expected off me. I was talking to my cousin about all this. She was happily narrating the whole story and I kept throwing a hundred questions at her like…

  1. You don’t even remember his face….and your ok with it?? :O
  2. So, you’re not even going to get to meet him or at least speak to each other before the engagement?
  3. You don’t even know what kind of guy he is? What he’s into?
  4. He’s a software engineer…work’s for a reputed company….sources say he’s a good guy with a clean slate….he’s from a good family….IS THAT ENOUGH?

Through out this conversation my mother kept nudging and shush-ing me. Seemed like she was trying to tell me…. “What more do you expect? This is how life is around here. This is what is expected out of all of us. If you don’t go by these rules….you’re DOOMED!!!”

I can’t do this!! I can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with someone I don’t even know. Someone I might not even get along with.

I’d be ok with this whole thing if I would get some more time to get to know the person, get some time to decide. But all the talking and bonding happens only after the engagement!!!! Like that’s of any help. It’s not like the engagement can be broken. And even if it comes down to that..the kind of humiliation that one’s family has to go through, I’d rather not think about that. By the time you are engaged the whole world would know about it. It’s almost like you’re already married!

Ahhhhh! If only there was a fool-proof way to deal with all this.

Oh and did I tell you, technically, I’m next in line !!! NEXT IN LINE!!!

I’m soooo Doomed !

I guess not.

 

In my last post I’d mentioned that I’d be going to Kerala. Well, yeah, that happened. Didn’t get to do much there. Thanks to the monsoons. Came face-to-face with one of my biggest fears (More about that in another post).

Got back from Kerala and now… I’m in Oman. Was a little apprehensive about coming here, apprehensive about seeing what had become of this country. I must say, life has gone back to normal for most of the people, especially for those who weren’t affected to that great an extent. I heard that besides all the infrastructure damage, which was mentioned by the main stream media, not much has been said about all the lives lost. I remember one of the news channels mentioning a 20+ figure but here they say it is definitely in the thousands. I don’t know if that is a good thing or bad (here I’m not talking about the fact that lives were lost…but the fact that the full extent of the damage done was not explicitly stated anywhere).

Work is on full swing to restore all the damage done. There are only very few parts within the city where you will actually see any remnants of what had happened. Its still quite depressing to see the Qurum area. Shops are slowly re-opening now. Things are getting back to normal.

The Muscat Municipality and other concerned authorities have been working their butts off! Doing this kind of work in this kind of heat!! Hats off to them.

Well, besides that… our phone line’s gone kaput, which means no internet! It was only last night that I figured out that I could use my cell phone connection to access the internet. Woo hoo!

You’ll be seeing more of me now! 🙂